No. 9 - Woman, Love Your Man

Most of the time when I write my thoughts I try to represent both sides of an issue. That theme won’t be part of this one because I feel this issue deserves special attention. In the coming weeks I’ll be sure to write my thoughts regarding the other side of this equation – Man Loving His Woman. I ask that you exercise a little patience and allow yourself to open up to what comes below.

Many times we fail to acknowledge the fact that a man needs to know his woman is “with” him. (She has his back. She understands he is on a quest for success that – in many cases – places him in foreign territory, amidst a sea of turbulent unknowns. She not only has empathy, but also consideration and support for him. She understands that her loving kindness towards him will be the difference between another day experiencing Heaven – or Hell – on Earth). A powerful force in his life, to say the least.

It is clear to me that the nature of society and relationships has been under attack for a very long time. We now operate in smaller (and smaller) groups, thinking its better to stay away from others then to get involved in their “drama”. Men and Women are pit against one another in competition for jobs, recognition, family obligations, etc. We have adopted the perspective that we are warriors fighting to maintain control over some aspect of our shared lives, and that the other party in the relationship had better understand.

I thank God – every God mankind has ever known – for the Love of a Woman.

Her Love is sacred. It mentally removes man from the challenges and hardships of this society. It takes him on a journey to Spiritual wholeness. It overpowers the barriers that so often lock man into emotional drought; causing him to remember – and know – that he are more then just the strength of his resolve to achieve a goal… Her mastery of the gifts of her Love, imparted to him, becomes the motivational impetus that makes him know he must always do better to give to her that which she needs.

It is my belief that deeply embedded within every man is a burning desire, a genuine need, to share a closeness and intimacy that is sacred only to him and his Woman. It is a craving that, while tempered with practical reality, becomes an almost urgent need he wants her to attend to.

Am I talking about sexual needs? Yes… that and more. I’m also talking about intellectual, emotional, Spiritual, and the basic need for one person to talk to another. Each couple is challenged to find balance in all these areas. The beauty of coming together to share of one another is by doing so the couple creates the means to find their balance.

Does this mean a Man is weak if he recognizes this part of himself? I think not. In truth, I believe that the Love of a Woman in a way that meets the needs of the Man gives him balance. It centers his Soul by making him aware of both sides of human intimacy and it encourages him to recognize yet another beautiful aspect of his woman’s Love. And it provides tangible proof of the level of passion they each possess.

I must take a moment to acknowledge that all of us do not make time to allow in the giving and receiving of this kind of love. To those who do not I strongly recommend that you start.

For so long now we’ve been hearing Men are physical creatures and Women are emotional creatures. Perhaps there is true to that… but perhaps not as much as we have been led to think. And maybe we’ve all gotten too caught up in that argument anyway. What I do know is it is always far better to share some time in the midst of the love and caring of someone who longs to share her energy then it is to go about the day with no attachment to ones Spiritual/Emotional core.

I’ve read so much, and observed so much, in the last few years about the need for couples to spend quality time away from all the distractions – TV, phones, radios, kids, work, etc. – that I have to agree time is running out for those couples who do not make time for one another. As the challenges we face increase, and as we move closer to a more internationally integrated world, we will face the potential for greater hardships. That said, we have to make changes to our daily regiment that gives us the time to enjoy one another when we are in a committed relationship.

A Man needs the Love of his Woman. It is critical to him. It provides balance and perspective to him on many levels. It creates the opportunity for greater closeness and better understanding of the needs of the relationship.

A Woman’s love is a precious gift from on High. It is a demonstration of her willingness to fully give one of her most sacred and prized possessions to her Man. It creates the pathway to conversations and realizations that can only build the relationship upwards.

So, in the spirit of respect, acknowledgment, and appreciate, I make a humble request: Woman, Love You Man.

He needs it.